Want to give a toast at the rehearsal dinner, but not sure how? Use this example rehearsal dinner toast as guideline for putting together a thoughtful speech that the guests will never forget.
True, rehearsal dinners are usually fairly small and informal, but it’s just good form to start any speech with an introduction. This should include a welcome, the toast giver’s name, and his relationship to the bride and/or groom. For this example rehearsal dinner toast, the father of the groom is speaking.
Good evening, everyone. I’m Franklin Smith, Bill’s father and Julie’s soon-to-be father-in-law.
Move from the introduction into a brief story. This story could be about anything, but try to think of a story that’s relatable to the couple or the occasion. Try to avoid stories that are rude or embarrassing, and definitely avoid anecdotes that mention any of the bride or groom’s failures or exes. Remember, these speeches are meant to honor the couple, not humiliate them.
The first time I met Bill’s mother, I was in college. I was walking across the quad when a woman ran right into me. I fell over and her papers flew everywhere. I helped her pick them up and I noticed she had the most beautiful eyes I’d ever seen. I offered to carry her books for her, and she let me. By the time we reached her class, I knew this was the woman I was going to marry.
Anecdote about the Couple
Next, bring the story around to the couple, the wedding, and/or marriage itself. Take a moment to praise the bride and/or groom and to make them feel loved and welcomed.
The first time Bill brought Julie over for dinner, I recognized that look on his face. It was the look of a man who’s met the woman he’s going to marry, and I knew that sooner than later Julie would be joining our family. Julie, you’re a lovely woman with a beautiful spirit and a great heart, and we are forever grateful that Bill brought you into our lives.
End the speech with a few bits of wisdom or advice that might relate to the couple and their future together. If the toast giver isn’t married, consider finding a blessing or a quote that could apply to the couple.
If there’s anything I’ve learned in twenty-odd years of marriage, it’s the importance of laughter. As long as you can laugh together, you’ll be able to weather any hardship and sail through any storm.
Finish off with some best wishes for the couple and a definitive statement indicating to the guests that the speech is over that it’s time to toast. This is an Old English blessing.
May your joys be as bright as the morning, your years of happiness as numerous as the stars in the heavens, and your troubles but shadows that fade in the sunlight of love. [raises glass] To Bill and Julie!
This example rehearsal dinner toast is sincere, but that doesn’t mean there isn’t room for levity. Feel free to interject some humor, just as long as it’s not mean-spirited or at anyone’s expense.
Remember: the rehearsal dinner is will be smaller and more informal than the reception, and the words don’t need to be perfect, as long as they come from the heart.
By using this example rehearsal dinner toast as a guide, most toast givers will find the speech writes itself.
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